Lying is of the people. We do much more than previously believed, according to a scientific experiment that was to be seen on British television.
What you said this morning against your neighbour, who asked how it is going with you? Or against that fellow, who asked him what his work was? The chances are that you’re not quite the full truth have told. We tell …
What you said this morning against your neighbour, who asked how it is going with you? Or against that fellow, who asked him what his work was? The chances are that you’re not quite the full truth have told. We tell every day a lot of small – and bigger – lies, and we do that more often than previously assumed.
That is apparent from the BBC report ” A Week without Lying, and the Honesty experiment’, which this week was broadcast. The Dutch psychologist Sophie van der Zee (Erasmus University Rotterdam) was one of the three scientists who took part.
What have you learned?
“We’ve noticed that a lot of people lie more than we previously research could decide. And also that everyone in a different way lie: one person is going to move more, the other freezes as it were. Someone else is going to understand a lot of talking and a lot of details come up with. Also, people have different motivations to lie: the a is doing, especially to others not to hurt, the other does it to make himself better. Lying is much more personal than we thought. Scientific research must now take that into account.’
A white lie, or someone else not to hurt: can that be evil?
‘Depends. There was a female priest with him who said that they often ‘white lies’ told to other people not to hurt. She said that, the truth above the lie chose, but if they had to choose between lies and love, she chose the latter. That sounds good, but we saw that the complex was.”
“Ruth lied, for example, against a man who reads in the church and that feedback early. You heard how they the question is dodged, and you saw her “fine” to say as her head no nervously. According to me she does that not only to be nice, but also because her Church is not as much as people counts, and the man does not want to scare you. She has him in the future will probably still be necessary. Conclusion: even when people say that they are lying to others, not to hurt, often plays self-interest.’
Are people happier as they more often tell the truth?
“For subject the Moo – a marketing consultant of British-Indian origin – was it liberating to not always be in the first place to others to think. She had her parents promised to during their vacation to their house to take care, but were reluctant because it is quite far away. They dared now that her partner, so that they the long drive not only would have to make. To her surprise told her friend yes and they made it a fun roadtrip. But Moo also made a crisis: she wondered if they than in all previous years, it was “fake”. They began very much to doubt themselves.’
It Is possible to always tell the truth?
“It is certainly possible to be truer in life. But people who never telling a lie or a truth in concealment, have the difficult. Some people with autism find that their inability to smalltalk to tell the social interactions difficult. Please note that not lying does not mean that you unasked all need to say what comes into your mind. There struggled a priest Ruth so bad.’
How do you define lying?
‘Tell the truth doesn’t mean you all have to say, but the essence of it. If your partner asks you with whom you have something to go for a drink, you don’t have all the people in the pub to call. But if you only says that it is with friends, while your ex was one of them, then that is a lie.’
People who exaggerate, lie also?
‘That is a thin line. If you find yourself better presents than you are, because you want others to have a better picture of you, you’re lying. If it is obvious to the interviewer that you overdo with entertainment as the goal, is the entertainment, not to lie. If it’s not clear to your interlocutor, I would again be lying. Comedians and cynics are excluded. Of them know their audience that they do this. As we in English say: lying is done without forwarding, without prior notification.’
Is there a connection between creativity and lying?
‘Intricate lies to tell, or you lie to keep up when people are questioning, you need to quickly be able to think and be creative. Lying is pretty hard. Also is it against the universal desire to be a good man. That we all want. Lying does affect our self-image, but if you’re creative, it’s easier to get lies to justify without the self-esteem threatening. Also if we anonymous can lie, we do it more often, such as, for example, in the zelfscanner in the supermarket.’
“I am curious to see if the zelfscanner link to a person’s identity or account number, in combination with the tracking of violations in its profile, may lead to that people are less dishonest with the zelfscanner go to work. Then you can remove the anonymity is.’
What has you tempted to to this BBC programme?
“I’ve been promoted in Lancaster and was part of the team that a new method is developed to lies to detect. We combine three methods: analysis of language, movement analysis, and via a smartwatch, we measure certain physiological processes. The BBC wanted us to research out of the laboratory. That was a challenge, because in the real world, there is more noise on the information that you collect. It would continue to be a complex matter. Because you are only the indirect consequences of lying measuring changes in behavior and bodily processes – you can never be with a hundred percent certainty, say that someone is lying. Who is lying because he is somewhere to be embarrassed, that will not admit – and certainly not on television.”