Many convert Pascale Naessens, and her Pure Kitchen-books on a pedestal, but just as well she gets criticism about him. “I’ve often crying in the mirror looked at.’
Up to 70 per cent of us would ever suffer from imposter syndrome (oplichterssyndroom) – the feeling that we our success is do not deserve it, that we leave everything to luck to thank. Also who is the …
Up to 70 per cent of us would ever suffer from imposter syndrome (oplichterssyndroom) – the feeling that we our success is do not deserve it, that we leave everything to luck to thank. Also who is at the top, with a doubt face. The Standard speaks with Flemish leaders about the imposter syndrome, self-confidence and criticism. Today: Pascale Naessens.
“For me, it is all a slow process, but I can understand that my success out of nothing seemed to come out. I did not realize just how successful my books are: the sense is, years later, come. At home I have a safe nest is created, a cocoon. The outside world, the interviews, and the success, I’m external to. “What is happening here after all?” That is separate from me. I’ve been at lectures all to often Paul calls: “What do all the people here anyway? What do they want from me?” Then I get it sometimes even stuffy.’
I think that I will, at most, certain features of imposter syndrome , I feel especially motivated to have a positive story to tell. I also have doubts. Therefore, surround me with scientists: I check if all is well, that it is true. I recognize that feeling: “everyone is looking to me here, but I also did not have all the answers”.’
A small group of readers, you place however on a pedestal, and believe that you have all the answers.
“I cultivate that is certainly not. And wants some perspective. It’s often about people whose lives are fundamentally changed, for example those specified by the classical medicine, and who is now once again able to enjoy their food and their lives. I understand them very well, because I’ve been through. When I was delivered from my problem, I spent two years on a pink cloud lived. With such a healing process I have actually nothing to do: the natural nutrition has done its work. I have only but accessible recipes developed.’People are going indeed for me by the fire, but their life has also changed dramatically. I admit that that is difficult to understand for people who have never struggled with food.’
Besides the positive responses, there are also a lot of criticism, for example, about girls that are too far would be running over. How do you deal with criticism?
“I learned a lot from that storm. It is especially important to have nuanced your story to tell, but nuanced narrative in the media is very difficult. I now learned that many discussions arise because what is normal for one is not normal for another. Price you happy if you never with the power supply struggled, but for me, and for many people, that is different. I then have a lot of support had to of comments: of readers who changed their lives, of the scientists with whom I work, of experts.’Anyway, that makes me not strong enough to be there just to can. You need to learn. I thought that was a very miserable period. Unjust: there was focused on a very small percentage and that was greatly magnified. Less than 1 percent of the population suffers from an eating disorder. In addition, they eat not at all like I’m promoting in my books. They are disgusted with my food, because I have to much fat to use and they do count calories, the opposite therefore of what I say. Meanwhile, 99 percent of the positive consequences of my books are ignored.’
Gives you spouse, Paul, Jambers, you then advice? He has also a number of storms passed.
‘His advice is always: just do further. Tall trees catch much wind. Grow a thick skin. You learn to deal with criticism, but it is never fun. The misunderstanding is not my motive, because I think that is not a pleasant role. But I am driven: I focus on the positive, on the success stories. I especially feel that it is worth the effort. We have a stone can move.’That confrontation with the press: that is on your mouth. But, in retrospect, is not that bad. My happiness is my safe nest. That starts with a good partner. Many people lose energy to the wrong partner: I put just a lot of energy out of my relationship with Paul.’
Typical for imposter syndrome is to think that you think that your success primarily due to luck.
“I’ve been lucky that I’m on the right time, so I started with my books, just for the hype. I also have an incredible amount of luck that the right people got to know. But happiness, you must also create: I’m going to ring the bell at Serax, the company that my ceramics releases. Happiness is without a doubt a big factor in my life, but I believe especially in hard work. I assume that no one at your door comes calling.’
How have you evolved from a model that struggled with an eating disorder to author of cookbooks?
‘The search for the solution to my eating problems is a very long way (Naessens had an obsessive relationship with food, hungered for him, and had eetaanvallen, eds.). I have long thought that there was no solution. I’ve been to a lot of experts went: psychologists, nutritionists, … And no one could help me. I am but go to search, go read it.’I have that process all the way only to be polite, I never talked about it. Even now it was not a choice to discuss: in my first book, I talk about it only in guarded terms. But girls who have eating disorder had recognized it immediately. It is, therefore, criticism about eating disorders so strange and hard: I have been.’Now I feel obliged to speak. I Had books I had, then I had at least eaten. An eating disorder is very lonely, because no one understands you. Why do you eat not just? Then it is just good to know that you are not alone, that another is gone. It was my biggest fear that things would come, but I’m an optimist: it will be ok, if you don’t specify.’
You are now better in your skin than when twenty years of model?
‘Without a doubt. Your beautiful feel is to do with feeling good. Now, I’m good in my skin, especially the energy is good. Though I never really nicely felt. I look meanwhile to 49 years to the same face: I can hardly say whether or not that face is now beautiful or ugly.’When I as a model worked there were periods that I was so bad at, that my face all swollen up. I’ve often crying in the mirror, looked and thought: “is this ever good?”.’If I am in there now, looking back, I would not want to miss. I’ve managed to make something miserable into something positive. I have my pain to be polite, but it has a function.’